1. cease resistance to an enemy or opponent and submit to their authority.
2. the action of surrendering; capitulation, submission, yielding, succumbing, fall, defeat, resignation
I’m going to add another meaning to this word: To let be.
I feel that we can surrender to many things, but in a good way. It needn’t involve things like: submission, defeat, resignation or giving up. In fact, quite the opposite can be true. Surrendering can simple become – ‘you’ in the moment, letting yourself simply ‘be’ and letting go of everything negative to clear the way so that you can create a new path for yourself.
Just over a week ago, I was in a near head-on car collision. To be honest, if you’d seen my car (or what’s left of it) you’d think I’d be a lot more injured than I am or…not be here writing this. The doctor who saw me, after seeing a pic of my car, said I was lucky to be alive.
But I am alive and after I collected myself, made sure the other driver was okay, I surrendered to the moment and let it unfold, as it should. I didn’t cry, or panic or get upset. I didn’t see a purpose in that. Yes, I was in shock, but even then, decided to let go of all the feelings I think should have been feeling and remain very calm. I knew it wasn’t entirely my fault and also knew that I couldn’t have anticipated the other driver’s quick decision to change lanes when he did.
However, things with insurance companies are very black and white – so I will be found 100% at fault. I was, after all, turning left. I guess that’s a bad thing…to turn left. 😉
That’s fine. I accept it and surrender to it and do you know what? It feels okay. I feel okay. I bought a new car; I’ll be able to pay it off, soon, and life goes on.
Tomorrow is a tough day; an anniversary of sorts. It will be one year since Bri took his life and I’m not quite sure how I’m going to be, emotionally, so I’m taking the day off.
I’ve decided to surrender to all of my emotions and just let it all flow through me throughout the day. Normally I can’t do this as I’m in an office dealing with clients or home and if ‘P’ is there, I don’t want to burden him with my ‘stuff’. He doesn’t understand it and doesn’t pretend that he does…so he’s quiet about it and keeps his nose out of my grief.
Not because he’s unsympathetic but because he simply hasn’t been through anything like it – EVER. He’s had a pretty easy life, thus far.
I also don’t want him to feel unimportant in my life and talk about Brian 24/7 – that would be unkind, disrespectful and unfair. My past is my past and P is my now and hopefully my future.
I’ll be okay. There will be much meditating and stillness as I sort through memories both good and bad. I will honor him and all those who have this pain and struggle.
I will surrender to this day and to what happened. I cannot change it but I can accept it and see it for the incredible life-changing experience that it was.
What will you surrender to?
What does it feel like? Losing someone you love by death. I mean how do you move on from that? You can opt to not answer my questions if it’s too hard for you or if it’s too personal. I just wanna know. Cause I’ve always thought it would be the hardest.
Hey there. I don’t have an issue answering but I’m not sure I can give a concrete answer. Brian completed suicide so it’s complex grief. You can’t ‘blame’ his death on an illness or another person (car accident) or an act of God, for example. It was his choice, alone.
I can say that in my (then) 49 years, it was the worst day of my life. It changed ME, forever. The heartbreak goes very deep and it will last for possibly the rest of my life. That being said, I chose to move forward as to ‘not’ do so would be an injustice to myself. It takes a lot of willpower to not give in to the sadness but eventually you can.
As a Medium, I know he wishes all who loved him to go on to have a happy and fulfilling life. As well, I know he’s okay and doing well on the other side and I have the utmost belief that I will see him again.
Does that help?