I don’t hear a word they’re sayin’….
Seriously. I keep meeting these people who’ve got all sorts of ideas and theories on the meaning of humanity and it’s about to make my head melt. It’s either all about the ‘meaning of it all’ or…some other complex and wordy explanation of how we should perceive ourselves, react to things (or not react) and stop in the moment, reflect on how to interpret how we feel and then deliver the appropriate meaning and feeling back to ourselves.
Does this sound complicated?? Hell, yeah. The gist of it is: If you decided to behave badly towards me, it’s up to me to deal with my own feelings and it’s up to me to decide what I’m going to do with said feelings or perhaps not do anything at all.
People seem to be in all of this self-discovery/self-improvement mode at all times that they simply forget to just…
Maybe, just maybe…we’re not meant to figure it out. Maybe we’re meant to get angry when someone does something that affects us negatively. Perhaps when we do, the other person thinks twice about their actions. Maybe we’re meant to react the way we do and it’s not just ‘what we know’ or ‘what we’ve been taught to do’.
This whole: You can choose how your feel and how you react when something bad happens to you is starting to sound old to me. Yeah, I get it. But what about being accountable for your actions?
I want to know one thing: Is it now ok to behave badly if the person you’re behaving badly towards simply works through their emotions and doesn’t let it affect them?
I’m still rather dubious of the whole idea.
I’m goin’ where the sun keeps shining…in the pouring rain…